Recently, I had the opportunity to meet up with other naturals and transitioners in my city. The Curly Girls are Curly Niki followers and these women are fierce. We met at the Cheesecake Factory for brunch to talk natural hair and have a great time. At this meet up I realized that I’m not alone with experiencing different emotions along my journey.
On my Journey, now at the ten month mark, I’m having mixed emotions that others seem to run into at their six month mark. The battle is between staying the course, doing the BC, and relaxing. Yes, that’s right relaxing! Right not my hair is the healthiest and longest it has EVER been; I’m so excited! Ever now and then I toy with the idea of relaxing my hair to enjoy the length I never had. Just as soon as the thought crosses my mind, I think about how limp and lifeless my hair was relaxed. Then I start to think of all the bad habits I may fall back into. Besides I love the thickness and fullness of my new growth and once relaxed my fullness is gone.
Sometimes I ponder about doing the BC (Big Chop). I never had hair as short as four inches and honestly it scares me. Right now, confidence to sport a TWA is lacking. Fear always finds a way to snap me back into reality about the BC. Since doing the BC is scary for me and starting over with a relaxer frustrates me, staying the course is the only option. I’m realizing that my transition is going to take a lot of patience, dedication, and work on my part. Yes, I’m willing to put in the work. My new found natural friends have encouraged me to stay on track.
I look forward to our monthly meet ups because at this stage in my journey constant encouragement is needed. Despite my mental see-sawing between being natural and relaxed, I love my new growth and the texture of my hair. My hair is beautiful and healthy which is most important. I’m going to continue my journey to natural hair by slowly transitioning.
Ground Beef (93% fat free)
Black Beans (canned)
Shredded Cheddar Cheese (6g grams of fat per serving)
Organic Spinach (lettuce substitute)
Prepare: Cook ground beef in a pan and season with taco seasoning. Follow the directions on taco seasoning packet; then add black beans and stir. Once complete add to meat and bean mixture to tortilla top with salsa, organic spinach, shredded cheese, and fold ends then roll up tortilla. Voila! Enjoy!!
In December 2009 I started my own personal “1 Year No Heat” challenge. The purpose of the challenge was to force myself to learn heat free styles. Heat damage was a major factor in the destruction of my tresses. Flat ironing my hair was a daily routine and using a heat protectant never crossed my mind. I was too focused on having that “swang” as some may call it. In addition to staying away from flat irons I air dried with every wash. Within the last year my hair was flat ironed twice for trims and length checks.
Now one year without flat ironing and blowing drying was really tough. I basically quit cold turkey and boy was I craving. However, I had a little inspiration to keep on track. The day I decided to start my challenge my flat iron caught on fire. That’s right caught on fire. Crazy enough that week I used my flat iron at least twice. The third time using the flat iron I’m thinking “This is the third time this week and the last time. I can’t get heat damage all over again”. Then boom a spark and my flat iron burn out. Needless to say, that was a sign for me and the challenge started that day.
Every time I went to Wal-Mart, Sally’s, or Target I had to walk really fast past the flat iron aisle. Those flat irons were definitely calling my name. Yet, I’m happy to say I was able to stay away. The new flat iron came at nine months into my challenge then I weaved it up for another two months. I truly believe not having a flat iron and wearing a weave during my last stretch is the reason for my success.
For the past year my go to hair style was anything with curls. Curly hairstyles helped to camouflage the two textures. Plus I got a cute style with minimum heat that I absolutely love. Now that I’m in love with curly styles my transition is easier because the urge to flat iron has subsided tremendously.
Between Thanksgiving, Christmas, New Years, my new puppy, and the cold weather I gained 5lbs simply by not going to the gym and eating poorly. In retrospect 5lbs is not a lot but I weighed 149lbs. For me, 149lbs is unacceptable and the weight gain definitely motivated me to go back to the gym. Since the New Year I’ve concentrated on my eating habits and pumped up my cardio.
The plan for the next couple of weeks or 10lbs, which ever comes first, is cardio five days a week. Cardio is the secret to my weight loss and unfortunately I detest cardio. Within the last two weeks I dropped 4lbs and I’m excited. After dropping another 5lbs I will add circuits to get over the plateau. The circuits will encompass resistance but focus on cardio to continue the slim down process. Consistency is optimal for me to drop the weight and keep it off. This New Year’s resolution which I decided not to make is to work on “consistency” in every aspect of my life.
This shoe is so hot and a must have for the summer. Unfortunately, I have to find this cute style for a more affordable price. Jimmy Choo has turned a biker style with studs and feathers into pure elegance. I love them!!
Breakfast is the most important meal of the day. It sounds cliché but it’s true. Studies have proved that starting your day with a healthy breakfast speeds up your metabolism. Many people skip breakfast due to lack of time and healthy options. Below are a couple of healthy breakfast options I will also incorporate in my healthy eating routine.
1.Fresh fruit and cottage cheese
2.Fresh fruit smoothie with whey or soy protein and flax seed
3.Chicken and spinach crust less quiche
4.High fiber cereal like Fiber 1 with soy or skim milk
5.English muffin with almond butter and half grapefruit
6.Plain yogurt with fresh berries and granola
7.Regular oatmeal with cinnamon and brown sugar (you can cook regular oatmeal in a microwave) with a piece of wheat toast
These are really easy and healthy options I can have even on my busiest days. Most time I prepare my breakfast, lunch, and snacks the night before to eat while at work. Every one may not have this flexibility but these tasty choices only takes minutes in the morning to prepare and consume. Enjoy!!
I'm just an easy going person who loves to travel, embark on new adventures, and hang with family. The purpose of this blog is to document my Natural hair care journey. I plan to document all the ups and downs, good and bad times faced along the way. Please come and join me on my exciting journey.